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So here it is. Here is the truth about me. I am a cutter. I cut people out of my life. I do. But there are so many reasons behind it. Tell me if you have been here?!

Someone spreads rumors about you, you confront them. They someone in the timespan of a month or two have been able to turn friends against you that you have had for 5 years. What do you do? You didn’t even actually do anything to these other people, let alone the rumors that were spread were completely false. You point out to the person who spread the rumors that the people they are “friends” with are the same one that have turned their back on them becaus they just wanted to party. They are the same ones that “stole” your boyfriend from you. You are able to forgive them, but I get none? And for what?! What did I do? I didn’t hang out with you, I borrowed your clothes (as you did mine)?
So I cut. I cut that person and all my old friends out of my life. No one ever even asked me if the rumors where true… and no one even told me if exactly what she was spreading besides saying I was cheating on my then boyfriend (I can assure you I did not).

Somone is upset at you for telling your husband a story he has heard a thousand times over. Your husband decides it has gotten to the point where he needs to involve/share this with the dad. The person is mad at your because of your husbands actions. When you tell them that you did not know he was going to say anything, they don’t care. Yet, they have forgiven a person who has done them wrong 100x’s over and I get the ax because of something my husband did (which he did for a good reason.. he was not being a gossiper). Then they come back years later wanting to be your friend again, but still won’t say they were wrong in the first place?! I cut.

The problem with my cutting is that I never just cut the one person. I cut everyone. Anyone that sides or has compassion for the person I am cutting (when they know what happened), I cut them too. I cut so many people out because I am so hurt by one person.

I say I am able to separate relationships and I am.. as long as it is not me who is getting screwed. I am able to separate my mom and my sister having a fight. I am able to let someone confide in my about a friend without it being an issue for me and the other friend. I am able to separate, but when it comes to me.. if you side with the wrong party then you got to go.

But where does that leave me? I will tell you. It leaves me with me…. but I am so stubborn on the subject that there is no way I am able to let people back in without an apology of sorts. I am a person who needs to hear the words I am sorry or I was wrong or it came out wrong.

Things from almost 10 years ago still piss me off, so obviously there is no forgiving or forgetting with me. I am a grudge holder for 2 people that used to be in my life and because of the one person I lost about …. 15-20 friends. Because of the other, I lost them…. which was enough to hurt especially cause I spoke to this person literally everyday for close to 2 years, if not a little more.

So there it is.. are you like me?

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So we wake up the next morning, feet hurting and loving life.  Trent (my wonderful man) makes us breakfast and coffee.  We then decide he should take us to the mall to do some shopping and shopping we do.  We went to all of our favorite shops and Cheneille got some great birthday clothes. Trent was a great shopper.  He actually picked out a few necklaces for the girls to go with a new outfit.  What a brother!!  We pick up some food from the food court and decide it is time to leave cause we are going to see Cirque at the Radio City Music Hall! YAY

We are ready to go back into the city! We all have head bands on because they are fun 🙂

Again, please remember it is int he 90’s outside and we are lucky we made it with all of our make up still intact But we were super excited and took some pics so you could see Radio City Music Hall behind us. HOW FUN!

The next picture you are going to see is part of the Cirque show and I almost got my camera taken away, but it was kind of worth it. I mean I did not mean to be the one taking pics, but it happens!

The show was SUPER wonderful.  It was in a different language but it was pretty sweet and I would go to a show if you ever get the chance.  It is worth the money!

While we were walking to the show, I asked Neil is she had told Nick she was coming into town (they used to be roomies). She said she had not but had thought about it.  I told her if she wanted him to come out than I would invite Trent out too and we could all grab a drink together.  Lucky for us Nick was coming in from Europe and just got off the plane! YAY!  He met up with us and the drinks were flowin…. FLOWIN!

So my mom collects heart shaped rocks that she finds on the beach and Trent found this rock in a store for her!  What a sweet boy 🙂

After everyone did some drinking the birthday girl decided she wanted to do some dancin.  We asked around and settled on a place called the Mean Fiddler. Oh my gosh it was like a throwback to college and we were singing and dancing and it was SOO FUN!

We were lucky because we found the spot where the A/C was coming out and it cooled us off!  Again, just a wonderful night and around 3:00am I decided it was time to call it a night.  We had to get D on a plane and Neil and I had a show to go to tomorrow.

And I end the night the way I want: Holding my baby’s hand and going home!

There is a DAY 3 to come!!

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So my sister turned 30 at the end of July and my parents paid for her and a girlfriend to come to NYC!  I have such great parents.

So the girls came in on a Thursday night and they were supposed to land just 10 min from one another, however that is never how it works in Newark. We get them an hour and a half after their original time slot and go home!

When Neil walks in the door, I of course have the house decorated and cupcakes were made.

                      

Above us in the pic there are some puff balls I made out of tissue paper, they turned out pretty sweet and I am bummed I did not pick a picture with them in it, but moving on.  The next day we woke up pretty early for a day of shopping in the city. This would be my first time going through the city without Trent by my side and I was responsible for my sister and her friend.

We walked to the bus stop and we were already sweating bullets.  I swear it was 98 degrees outside and the pavement was reflecting that heat right back to us. We only had to wait a couple minutes but no one wanted to get on the bus first.  I wanted my sister to, she wanted me to and D was perfectly fine letting us fight it out. HAHA

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We get off the bus and we made it to Times Square!  Here we go!!!

We walked around for several blocks and made our way into Central Park because I am part mom (without any kids) I lugged around with me 3 bottles of water and 3 baggies of homemade trail mix.  Since it was killing my shoulder to carry all this crap, I decided it was a good time for everyone to get a little snack and some water.  It was a hit! After we had recharged a little we headed over to 5th Ave!

So we made it to Tiffany’s and the stairway as you can see is a bit under construction…..

However the bathroom was beautiful and I thought we should capture the moment with a pic!  Looking good girls!!

After we stopped off af Tif’s we decided to head over to FENDI because if we are dreaming, we might as well dream big!!

There is a beautiful church behind FENDI!

We made it in front of Rockefeller Center and my sister was not feeling well about herself so she decided to place me in front of her so I looked like the fat one.  Here we are laughing about what she is trying to accomplish!

We got some food, did some more walking, grabbed some GELATO (SOOO GOOD) and ended our night in front of the Iron building, were some creepy guy took our pic for us.  He asked me how old I was, I told him, then he asked what we were doing for the rest of the night.  I responded with “Meeting up with my husband” and he said oh, I am too old for you anyway, but how old is your husband.  I said “He is 28” and this guy said, Oh he is too young for me too.. WHAT?!  WHAT just happened?!!

So we got some good laughs and made it back to the bus station and Trent picked us up so we could rest up for another fun day!

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So first you need to know that I did in fact grow up in a Christian household.  I always had been told that witchcraft was wrong and phsycic were stupid.  I am sure at some point my parents followed up with Bible versus, but they just did not stick besides the fact that is was wrong.

In college, I had the opportunity to go with a friend of mine and her mother to go to a physcic fair.  At first, I was a bit hesitant but what was I going to say?  I was at this friends house and her mom wanted to go.  So I went ahead and went.  

 I had a foot reading in which the woman stated that I was “An old soul” and have been on this Earth many times. She also stated that my friend and I would be friends for life (which will end up being true). However, she said that this life was going to be a good one for me.  Apparently, I have had some bad ones in the past… WHO KNEW?!

I went and had a card reading done as well. The woman there said that my Grandma was coming through and she was sorry that I had to see her like that.  (My Great Grandma had just passed away and I along with my parents, had found her dead) I cried.  She than stated that she could see me traveling throughout my adult life.  At the time I was going to become a social worker… so I could not really see that happening. I thought maybe I would become rich and travel and that would be nice.  I left pretty uninspired because nothing really came out of it.

Well fast forward, years later. I do travel all the time and I am and will be friends with this particular friend for life.  This does not mean that going there was a good thing. Here is some scripture to back me up:

Leviticus 19:31 NIV. “Do not turn to mediums or seek out spiritists, for you will be defiled by them.”

 Deuteronomy 18:9-12 NIV, “When you enter the land the Lord your God is giving you, do not learn to imitate the detestable ways of the nations there. Let no one be found among you who sacrifices his son or daughter in the fire, who practices divination or sorcery, interprets omens, engages in witchcraft, or casts spells, or who is a medium or spiritist or who consults the dead. Anyone who does these things is detestable to the Lord.”

King Saul of Israel sought counsel from a medium called the Witch of Endor. The armies of Israel were about to be attacked by the Philistines. Saul was in rebellion against God and in desperation sought the services of the spiritist. 1 Samuel 28:8 NIV informs us, “Saul disguised himself, putting on other clothes, and at night he and two men went to the woman. ‘Consult a spirit for me,’ he said, ‘and bring up the one for me I name.’ ” Saul then asked the medium to conjure up the spirit of the deceased prophet Samuel, to ask his counsel regarding the Philistines. Verses 13 & 14, NKJV, “And the king said to her, “Do not be afraid. What did you see?” And the woman said to Saul, “I saw a spirit ascending out of the earth.” So he said to her, “What is his form?” And she said, “An old man is coming up, and he is covered with a mantle.” And Saul perceived that it was Samuel, and he stooped with his face to the ground and bowed down. ”

Saul should have known better than to consult with a medium, for God had warned in Leviticus 20:6, “I will set my face against the person who turns to mediums and spiritists to prostitute himself by following them. I will cut him off from his people.” The end result of King Saul’s quest was tragic. Shortly after his visit to the witch, the king took his own life following his wounding in battle. Was the spirit conjured up by the medium a genuine agent of God? The answer is in the Bible, 1 Chronicles 10:13-14. “Saul died because he was unfaithful to the Lord; he did not keep the word of the Lord and even consulted a medium for guidance, and did not enquire of the Lord.” The medium’s spirit was an imposter, for Scripture clearly states that Saul “did not enquire of the Lord.”

Just because a spirit says something and it is true, it does not mean that the spirit is good.  I think we forget a lot that Satan is allowed to tell us the truth as long as he feels the end justifies the means. If it will make you trip up on your walk with the Lord, than he will for sure tell you the truth. 

With shows like Lond Island Medium it is easy to see a great mom who is doing a service for people by telling them about their loved ones. However, this woman is actually pretty sick and does not know it. I do not think she is a bad person, I think she is a lost person who Satan got a hold of early in life so she “never knew of anything different” (concerning her abilities, not her personality).  I do not think that she is actually evil, I think what Satan is doing is making her so likeable that people will not see his work through her (I do not think she knows her abilities come from Satan) .  Because if she did, that would make is scary and Satan is not always one to make things scary.

I don’t know.  This is just something I was thinking about today and decided to post. Just some food for thought and my own personal experience.

 

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So it is Friday and Trent and I are still at work… ugh.  My parents are in town for just a small amount of time, yet we have to work late.  It is really throwing me off my game. Lucky for me, my parents are making us some dinner which means I will be able to walk through the door and eat instead of having to make the dinner. Thank God for mom and dad!

We walk through the door and man oh man have they gone shopping. The got us some more groceries, there is shrimp, asparagus, cheesy mashed potatoes and some homemade chicken nuggets.  OH MY GOODNESS so much food so little time. We all eat generous portions of this wonderful food and sit around and talk for the rest of the night.  

My mom and I went for a walk on the treadmill to have some girl time and we caught up (which is funny cause we at least text once a day).  Oh, how I miss my parents when they are gone.  I just have such a great relationship with the both of them.  Around 11:30 we decide to call it a night and go to bed.  Tomorrow (Saturday) we get to go out on the town to NYC.  I am so excited to go on this adventure with them. YAY Parents. 

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Facebook.. no more


So, I deleted my Facebook account.  You would not believe the amount of people that took it as a personal insult to them.  I did it for me.  I did it because I would sit there and get angry with people over their choices.  They never asked me for my opinion, so why the heck would it be ruining my moment.  I mean, I would seriously get angry and it was usually at my own family members. I simply could not believe that a teacher (we have many teachers in my family), would have students as friends, then show inappropriate pictures of their weekend for their students to see.  Or use the F word in their posts for their students to see.  I could not longer take some other family members talking about the sheer amount of people they sleep with (when their entire family can see it.. parents and grandparents included).  It made me soo angry and so upset. I kept thinking the moral compass of my family is just so off I could not handle it. So I decided instead of sitting and being angry with them, I would remove the posts from my life.  If they wanted to call and discuss their choices with me, then I would speak about it with them, but if not.. then I really just need to get past it. I was the one having a problem, not them. So it was time for me to remove myself.  When something no longer is a positive in your life, it is time to get rid of it.

However, people are super angry with me leaving.  They think I am leaving because I think I am better than them, which is not true. I do not think I am better.  I just find it so weird that so many people do not understand my decision to get rid of it. I did not cut off a limb, I cut off a social network…

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